It sucks to feel like the outsider. It is like High School all over again. We think to ourselves: "Should we compromise who we truly are for the sake of fitting in ? or Should we be true to ourselves and our beliefs and not concern ourselves with what others think about us ?" I believe it varies from person to person. Some people enjoy being "chameleons" and having the ability to socialize in almost any type of environment (my wonderful husband is one of those people). Others are only comfortable around certain social environments. I guess the real question is, should we make an effort to be more approachable even if it means having to change a little ? I believe that Barbra Streisand said it best when she said: "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world". She is right. People need people. Having the desire to be around others is a blessing especially in today's world. Today, many people close themselves up to others; the internet is their best friend. Then we wonder why we have serious communication issues.
The majority of individuals hate feeling lonely. God created Eve for Adam because He (God) noticed that Adam was lonely ("It is not good that man should be alone" -Gen. 2:18).
After a while, constant loneliness creates a block of ice around a person's heart making it more difficult to penetrate the heart. So instead of feeling like a nudist in a tuxedo colony and excluding yourself from all the fun, dress to the nines and try to blend in without losing yourself. Making that small sacrifice will significantly be valuable to others. It will be challenging but worth it to save your marriage, relationship with co-worker, relationship with friend and/or relationship with family members.
One Night Only Barbra Streisand and Quartet at The Village Vanguard September 26,2009 (DVD/CD)